Time is such a fluid thing. Goes fast, goes slow, stops. Life gets redirected often depending on what needs present them, how exhausting the day has been and others demands and urgencies. Then there are those occasions when one can feel like we are in a sci-fi fire fight, being blasted by stun guns and other artillery. We can spin round and round until the dizziness takes over and collapse. How can we take greater charge of our responses instead of reacting in the moment?
Maybe we can look for the exit sign that removes us from that place, space and time to get some fresh air for our lungs and our head. Take a time a part so there is space to get a peek at the bigger picture to figure out what is our responsibility and what we CAN do versus what is out of our control and what we cannot do. With the distractions, we can get off our internal plan being swallowed up by other people.
By becoming so distracted, we can forget about our own wants, needs, emotions, desires and self-care. This is especially indicative if you were the one anointed as the caretaker in family or even the identified patient. Those of us in that position were given that false sense of power those if we did certain things or behaved a certain way, we could effect change and even create better outcomes. Of course, we are set up to fail and can end up with the brunt of the rage for not doing enough. We can also see how driving that train into today how that is working for us in our work and in our relationships.
First stop is just to STOP! I am trying to remove myself from this madness and pull inward to take care of me regardless of how this stance is not popular with others. Is my worth more than do, do, do, do more for others? During times past, when I took breaks from helping others, I noticed that those people left out of my orbit. They either stayed away or tried to return the relationship as a status quo, the way is was in the past.
Gratefully, age and healing impacts me more as I take stock of who I am now, where I want to be going, embrace my dreams and passion. High maintenance relationships are not the best fit for me now. I am looking for more equity in relationships, the investments that flows in both directions.
When we can move ourselves, the wounded selves, too, into the forefront where we can get what we have been missing will help us gain perspective of defining and redefining who and what we are today and about tomorrow. Don’t let the small dream inch us along; dream bigger and be open to the paths that materialize and lead the way.
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